Sunday, January 07, 2007

The Wizard Behind the Curtain

Since we've been trying to figure out what we like in an author's website, I was curious about a blog.

To be entirely honest, I was, at first, put off by Laurell K. Hamilton's blog. I'm not sure if it's just that I wasn't ready to see the author behind her vivid worlds. She really lets you see herself. At first, I was put off by the couple blogs where she was a little depressed (I forget why, it was awhile ago).

BUT, I now love her blog. I love that she puts herself out there and she's honest with her feelings. I love her dedication to posting and her willingness to share her musings with her readers. I think that kind of emotional bravery is admirable.

What do you think? Someone 'around town' was just worrying about what he posted on his site. I think he was just starting a new blog, and he was worried about what to post and what not to post. I understand that, too. At our local RWA meeting, someone mentioned that if they found out that they disagreed with their politics, then they wouldn't read that author anymore.

That's a little harsh, but it's not the first time I've heard something to that effect.

Vaspers made a great post about the 15 Risks of Blogging.

You know it's been one of my New Year's Resolutions to stop being too nice, and to start being more real. Give myself permission to be human and all that. I admire people like that (I'm not, but I'm trying.). I'm trying to do that with blogging: just be real.

Anyway, that reminded me of a book that was recommended to me called Nice. I can't find it anywhere, so I must have the title wrong, and I don't know the author. It's about a woman who is SO nice, that she can't bear to break up with boyfriends. She doesn't want to hurt their feelings.

Finally, she finds it easier to KILL them, rather than break up with them. From my understanding, it's dark humour.

I wanted to add it to my TBR for 2007, but I can't find it! Anyone heard of it?

13 bonus scribbles:

StarvingWriteNow 1/07/2007 02:00:00 PM  

The author is Jen Sacks. Found it used on Amazon starting at 1 cent. Sounds like a funny book!

So why don't you want any of us to read your erotica? Just shy that way, or do you think it would be just too weird to sit next to me at an NEORWA meeting and know that I know that you know that I know... whatever. (Just teasing you, dear! Now go write some more sexy stuff!)

spyscribbler 1/07/2007 02:51:00 PM  

LOLOL ... it's kinky romance. Trust me, if you're into it, you'll have found and read my stuff. And if you just read the bios, you'll know it's me. :-) If you get there, and you contact me, I'll come clean, I promise. :-)

Besides, if everyone knows my penname, then it's not going to be a secret, and I don't want to go there with my day job. I can't keep a secret worth a darn. If you really want to know, keep bugging me, LOLOL. I wear down easily.

I looked on Amazon, and weeded through tons of pages, but I never got to Jen Sacks. That's awesome, thanks! I'm going to put that on my list!

Edie 1/07/2007 05:31:00 PM  

I'm not as bluntly honest as Laurell Hamilton in my blogs. Although I'm not always happy and bouncing, I focus on the positive instead of the negative. I keep my angst for my characters--and my CPs. *g*

Blogs are public. I wouldn't say anything in a blog that I wouldn't want an agent or editor to read--because they just might.

Avery DeBow 1/07/2007 06:05:00 PM  

I agree with Edie. Blogs are public and your online signature will most likely live far longer than you will. I try to say only that which I don't mind following me around for the next sixty years.

I have many, many opinions, but I try to spare my reader most of them. On occasion, when Big Brother tries to interfere with Net Neutrality, or digs up some amazing new way to squelch free speech, I'll comment. Otherwise, I try to keep my professional me and my personal me as two separate entities.

spyscribbler 1/07/2007 06:37:00 PM  

I agree with both Avery and Edie! That seems to be wise advice.

I'm curious, though. What about the blogs you read?

Zoe Winters 1/08/2007 04:14:00 AM  

hey, i wanna read the kinky romance. *pouts* Ok, done pouting, it's only cute when you're 6 years old. heh I'm definitely going to read that book: "nice" I've gotten so many great book recommendations lately. I'll never get through them all. I just try to say what I think in my blogs. Although I do worry often that I either come off as really narcissistic or as a know it all. but yet I soldier on. heh. I like LKH's blog. I like her post about negative fans. It's pretty funny cause I've heard the bitching and moaning about LKH's books and where the series has gone: "it's turned into vampire/were-everything porn." and I'm like "and the problem is...?" I happen to like vampire and were-everything porn. The more everything the merrier. As far as I'm concerned she's pushing mainstream sexual envelopes in her writing that is just making the road easier for the rest of us who write stuff just a little bit naughty on occasion. It's about time some of this repression ended and people stopped hiding slightly uncomfortable things behind red curtains.

Avery DeBow 1/08/2007 10:30:00 AM  

I'm pretty much a, "It's your choice," kind of person. If LKH (or anyone else, for that matter) wants to reveal her fragile side, I don't mind. She doesn't seem to be hurting in sales for it.

spyscribbler 1/08/2007 10:31:00 AM  

Pouting only cute when you're six? No one told me that! It sure gets me what I want from DH. :-) I find it a very effective tool, LOL.

That was pretty funny. I, too, was disappointed with her series. I felt betrayed with the whole Richard thing. I mean, one day he's one person, and the next day he's another.

But, I was thrilled when she mentioned that Nathaniel was playing a big part in the next novel. I LOVE Nathaniel. He's my very favorite.

And I love all that sex, too. That's the best part! Go ardeur!!!

writtenwyrdd 1/08/2007 12:08:00 PM  

I know this will sound snobbish, but I find blogs like LKH's (with not just personal info, but genuine whining at times--shoot me if I ever succumb to this) to be really pretentious. As in, drama queen material.

Yes, that's probably harsh. But it really turns me off of reading her blog.

I also think that, even if we do share our lives and personalities via a blog, that we need to keep some things private from the public. The writerly persona needs a bit of mystique. (The man should stay behind the curtain.)

Avery DeBow 1/08/2007 04:42:00 PM  

While I don't care what others write about their personal lives, I'm very protective of my own. I'll share my thoughts about this writing life, but I'll never drag personal events in -- unless I find them to be greatly amusing (and even then all names will be changed to protect the innocent).

There's no question -- this man is definitely staying behind the curtain.

spyscribbler 1/08/2007 05:36:00 PM  

writtenwyrdd, that's definitely a very valid point. I was turned off by LKH's blog at first. Really turned off. I visited once or twice, and said, nope!

When I started using google reader, I plugged her in. Somehow that emotional bravery really spoke to me. I definitely see both sides of the issue, though.

LOL, Avery. There are parts of me I'm very protective of, too. They're just too special to share. :-)

Zoe Winters 1/09/2007 05:00:00 AM  

I think there is a very thin line between emotional bravery and narcissism. But hell, what is ANY blog if not somewhat self involved? I mean there is hubris in saying: "hey world, look at me, I'm going to talk to you every day and you're going to listen dammit!" No?


I think whining can be a turn off depending on the subject. If you're just whining about general things it's less of an issue than if you're talking bad about individual humans or how hard your life is (especially if you're famous. I have little sympathy for "oh god, my life is so fans are so trying" be glad you have fans.)

spyscribbler 1/09/2007 09:53:00 AM  

LOLOL ... I think we writers are a bit self-involved by nature. Just that we're always trying to figure out how we feel and how we would feel if we were in someone else's shoes and what we would do if we were in their shoes.

Oh, yes, Zoe! The whining about readers writing them. If it bothers them, why do they have contact buttons? Turn them off. Personally, it sounds too much like biting the hand that feeds you.