So I was teaching the other day, and in walks one of my students. In he walks, all happy and confident as if the last year and a half of struggling with his I'm-afraid-I-can't-do-it and his verge of quitting.
I've pushed him through the challenge, and now that he has it?
The last year and a half are forgotten.
He's all happy and confident, self-motivated and everything.
Mostly it's because he's just finished memorizing everything, so he just has a few loose ends to tie up before he can show off this amazing piece to his friends. See, learning advanced pieces is a bit like writing a novel.
We're talking looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong-term goal.
Kids just don't do long-term goals these days. And when faced with the fear that they won't be able to do it? They quit.
Heck. Even adults struggle with long-term goals.
Anyway, I was thinking. You know how they say actually finishing a novel puts you ahead of 90% of wannabe novelists?
Well, I'm thinking that doing any hugely long-term goal, like learning an advanced piece or writing a novel, puts you ahead of 90% of the population.
Adults and kids alike. Long-term goals are a HUGE challenge. They're just one of those things that can't be reasoned. You have to learn how to deal with the fear in your own way.
Learning how to work through fear is another biggie.
Just some thoughts. If I'm scarce the next two weeks, it's because these are the busiest of my year. I might have some old drafts saved up that I never posted, though.
So what long-term goals have you tackled? How did you work through the fear? What's the first memory you've had of a goal you thought you wouldn't be able to do, were certain you'd never be able to achieve, but did? How did you make it through?
Some kids are hard-wired from birth to be long-term goal-ers. (I've had two in my whole teaching career, and they both did AMAZING things.)
Were you like that? Is there a secret trick you have?