Read and weep: a blogging soldier’s final post to the world, to be posted by his friend if he ever died. Andrew Olmsted requests:
"I do ask (not that I’m in a position to enforce this) that no one try to use my death to further their political purposes. I went to Iraq and did what I did for my reasons, not yours. My life isn’t a chit to be used to bludgeon people to silence on either side. If you think the U.S. should stay in Iraq, don’t drag me into it by claiming that somehow my death demands us staying in Iraq. If you think the U.S. ought to get out tomorrow, don’t cite my name as an example of someone’s life who was wasted by our mission in Iraq. I have my own opinions about what we should do about Iraq, but since I’m not around to expound on them I’d prefer others not try and use me as some kind of moral capital to support a position I probably didn’t support."
I find final letters fascinating in a morbid sort of way. In fact, I have a file on my computer called "Letters to be Mailed Upon My Death."
DH thinks that’s weird.
My dad died when I was ten; I only offer that in small explanation for why I have such a file on my computer. Although, my dad died a (slow?) death, well, less than a year, so he had plenty of time to make sure I knew how much he loved me.
Even before he got cancer, it was like he knew he had to pass certain nuggets on before he died. What father tells their eight year old not to marry until they’re thirty?
Sometimes, I think we subconsciously know if we’re going sooner rather than later.
Anyway, I have such a file on my computer because I want those people who were special in my life to know just how much I appreciated and cared for them. Yeah, we try to say those things in life, but when someone dies, we have a tendency to think, "I wish I would’ve done X, or spent just one more day with them."
I want them to remember a happy memory, and I want to say a final thank you and a final I love you. I want them to know how they made my life better, and in a few cases, leave some last words of unasked-for advice, LOL.
I wish my father had left me a letter, but his best friend wrote me one that suited. I treasure it to this day.
So that’s why I have a file marked "Letters To Be Mailed Upon My Death."
Do you have such a file? Have you written some of those letters?